PROBLEM: I understand the problem, but I don't fully understand what it's like to experience it.
To find a profitable problem to solve, you must understand what it is like to experience the problem
STEP 3: DEVELOPING EMPATHY
Absolutely. With the actual Demand-Side Sales contents, I would rewrite Step 2 so the book teaches the perspective, while the EVUNN toolkit turns that perspective into an executable Buying Situation Profile.
Step 2 — Define the Customer’s Buying Situation
The Problem We’re Solving
“I know who my best-fit customer is, but I don’t understand what makes them decide it’s time to solve their problem.”
A person can have a problem for months or even years without buying anything to solve it.
Something has to change.
They may experience a new responsibility, a failed attempt, an unexpected consequence, a deadline, a growing frustration or a new opportunity.
At some point, their current situation becomes difficult enough that they begin looking for a different way forward.
That moment is important.
Because your customer doesn’t simply buy because a problem exists.
They buy when they become motivated to make progress.
So your job in this step is to understand:
What is happening in the customer’s world that creates a reason to seek a solution?
The EVUNN Mindset Shift
From “My customer has a problem” → “My customer is trying to make progress.”
As an expert, it is easy to look at your customer through the lens of your expertise.
You see:
“They need consulting.”
“They need training.”
“They need a better system.”
“They need coaching.”
But your customer doesn’t experience their world as a service category.
They experience a situation.
They are trying to accomplish something.
They are struggling with something.
They are trying different ways of dealing with it.
And eventually, they may decide:
“I need to do something differently.”
That is the perspective you need to understand.
📖 Recommended Book
Demand-Side Sales
Authors: Bob Moesta & Greg Engle
The Big Idea
Customers are trying to make progress from their current situation to a better one.
Demand-side thinking asks you to understand the customer’s world from their perspective, rather than beginning with what you want to sell.
Instead of asking:
“What service do I provide?”
ask:
“What progress is this customer trying to make, and what is happening that makes change important now?”
This is particularly valuable for an expertise-based business because your expertise can easily make you focus on your solution before understanding the customer’s motivation to change.
What Business Problem Does This Book Solve?
“I know my customer has a problem, but I don’t understand why they decide to do something about it.”
This book helps you understand the difference between:
A problem existing
and
Demand for a solution emerging.
That distinction is critical.
Someone can know they have a problem and still do nothing.
Your objective is to understand what happens between:
“I have this problem.”
and:
“I need to find a solution.”
Should I Read It Now?
YES.
This is the primary book for Step 2.
But don’t read it as a conventional sales book.
You are reading it to develop the ability to see the customer’s situation from the demand side.
As you read, keep asking:
“What makes this customer move from tolerating their current situation to actively seeking change?”
Which Chapters Matter Most?
You do not need to read the entire book before completing this step.
Chapter 1 — Two Perspectives on the World: Supply and Demand
ESSENTIAL
This establishes the fundamental shift between the supplier’s perspective and the customer’s perspective.
Pay particular attention to how demand looks different when you stop asking:
“What am I selling?”
and start asking:
“What is the customer trying to accomplish?”
Chapter 3 — Solving the Customer’s Struggle
ESSENTIAL
This is directly relevant to the EVUNN framework.
Focus on understanding:
The customer’s current situation
What they are struggling with
Why their current approach isn’t sufficient
What they are trying to change
Your goal is to understand the struggle behind the purchase.
Chapter 4 — Seeing the World Through the Customer’s Eyes
ESSENTIAL
This chapter reinforces the perspective you need throughout the EVUNN roadmap:
Don’t interpret the customer’s problem entirely through your own expertise.
Try to understand what the situation looks and feels like from the customer’s side.
Chapter 7 — Moving from Pushing Products to Creating Pull for Progress
ESSENTIAL
This helps connect customer motivation to demand.
The important lesson for EVUNN is:
Don’t push your solution onto a customer who isn’t ready for change. Understand the progress they are already trying to make.
Read Selectively
Chapter 2 — The Frameworks for Demand-Side Selling
Read this for the author’s broader framework.
You don’t need to master the entire sales methodology at this stage.
Take what helps you understand customer demand and move on.
Chapter 5 — Mapping Demand-Side Buying to Supply-Side Sales, Marketing, and Customer Success
Read selectively.
It provides useful context for how customer demand connects with the business’s response.
However, the marketing and sales applications become more relevant later in the EVUNN roadmap.
What Should I Skip For Now?
Chapter 6 — Connecting the Dots Between Sales, Marketing, and Customer Support
Skip for now.
It is more concerned with connecting demand-side thinking across organizational functions.
That isn’t the immediate problem you’re solving.
You can return to it later.
Conclusion / Appendix
Optional.
Don’t let them slow down execution.
Your EVUNN Action
Build Your Customer’s Buying Situation
Return to the Best-Fit Customer Profile you created in Step 1.
Now move from:
“Who is this customer?”
to:
“What is happening when this customer becomes ready to act?”
1. Describe the Current Situation
Ask:
What is happening in this customer’s world before they start looking for a solution?
Describe their actual circumstances.
What are they doing?
How are they currently dealing with the problem?
What are they tolerating?
What isn’t working?
2. Identify What Changes
Ask:
What changes or happens that makes their current situation harder to accept?
Look for events such as:
A new responsibility
Business growth
A failed attempt
A deadline
A performance problem
A financial consequence
A major transition
A new opportunity
Increasing customer complaints
Increasing workload
A change in circumstances
You are looking for the event or change that increases the pressure to act.
3. Identify the Customer’s Struggle
Ask:
What becomes difficult for the customer?
Describe the struggle from their perspective, not yours.
Instead of:
“They need strategic consulting.”
write:
“They don’t know which growth opportunity to pursue and are worried about wasting limited resources.”
The second statement describes their experience.
4. Identify the Progress They Want
Ask:
What are they trying to accomplish?
What would they like to be different?
What are they trying to achieve, avoid, change or become?
Remember:
Your service is not the customer’s desired outcome.
The customer may buy consulting.
But they may actually want:
“Confidence that they’re making the right strategic decision.”
5. Identify What They Try Before Buying
Ask:
“What do they do before they seek a solution like mine?”
They might:
Search online
Ask colleagues
Watch videos
Read books
Use AI
Try to solve it themselves
Hire internally
Use an existing tool
Ask a friend
Ignore the problem
Don’t judge these behaviours.
You are trying to understand the customer’s path toward change.
6. Identify the Trigger
Now ask:
“What happens that makes them start looking for a solution?”
Be specific.
Avoid:
“When they want to improve.”
Instead:
“When their business grows to the point where they can no longer manage client delivery manually and customer complaints begin increasing.”
The more specific the situation, the more useful the insight.
7. Identify the Reason to Change
Ask:
“Why can’t they simply continue doing what they’ve been doing?”
This is different from the trigger.
The trigger may create awareness.
The struggle creates pressure.
The desired progress creates motivation.
But the customer eventually reaches a point where they think:
“The way I’m doing this isn’t working anymore.”
Capture that moment.
Build Your Buying Situation Story
Now connect the pieces:
Current Situation
↓
Change / Trigger
↓
Customer Struggle
↓
Desired Progress
↓
Existing Attempts
↓
Reason to Change
↓
Buying Situation
You are creating a story of how demand emerges.
🧠 EVUNN Mindset Checkpoint
Are you trying to convince instead of understand?
At this stage, you may feel tempted to prove that your offer is needed.
Watch for thoughts such as:
“I already know what they need.”
“I just need to explain my solution better.”
“They should understand the value.”
Stop.
Your job at this stage is not to convince.
It is to understand.
Optional reading
The Mom Test — Rob Fitzpatrick
Use this checkpoint if you notice that you are:
Leading customers toward answers you want
Asking hypothetical questions
Looking for validation instead of truth
Treating compliments as evidence
Avoiding difficult customer conversations
This is optional.
Do not interrupt your execution flow unless you actually encounter this resistance.
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Buyer Situation Mapper
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Use the EVUNN Buyer Situation Mapper to map the customer’s current situation, trigger, struggle, desired progress, existing attempts and reason for change so you can identify when and why demand for your solution emerges.
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Your Step 2 Output
By the end of this step, you should have a:
BUYING SITUATION PROFILE
Containing:
Current Situation
↓
Trigger / Change
↓
Customer Struggle
↓
Desired Progress
↓
Existing Attempts
↓
Reason to Change
↓
Buying Situation
This becomes the input for Step 3.
What You Should Now Know
You started Phase 3 knowing:
Who your best-fit customer is.
You now understand:
What causes that customer to become motivated to seek a solution.
That gives you two critical pieces of the market picture:
WHO
Your Best-Fit Customer
WHEN
Their Buying Situation
But there is still another question.
When they decide:
“I need to solve this.”
they have choices.
They can do nothing.
They can do it themselves.
They can use an existing solution.
They can hire someone else.
They can choose your offer.
So the next question is:
“What would my customer choose instead of my offer?”
NEXT: STEP 3 — IDENTIFY THE ALTERNATIVES
What is my customer comparing my offer against?
To understand their experience, use Book 3. Title: Practical Empathy
Author: Indi Young
Time Investment: 5+ hours (Audiobook)
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The Big Idea from Practical Empathy
Empathy helps you move beyond assumptions and develop a deeper understanding of how people experience problems, situations, what they do, and what matters to them.
For an expert, this is a critical shift. Your expertise tells you what you think the problem is. Empathy helps you understand the problem from their perspective.
What Does this Book Help you Achieve?
Practical Empathy helps you:
Listen without immediately interpreting
Understand people’s experiences more deeply
Separate what people actually say from your assumptions
Make sense of what you hear
Identify patterns across people’s experiences
Use those insights to improve what you create
The goal isn’t to become better at selling.
It’s to become better at understanding.
Should I Read it Now?
YES.
You’ve already explored:
Step 1: What problems might exist?
Step 2: Why might people want to solve them?
Now you need to understand: What is this experience actually like for the person living through it?
Which Chapters Matter Most for me Now?
Chapter 2: Empathy Brings Balance (Essential)
Understand what empathy actually means and why it matters when making decisions about customers.
Chapter 3: Put Empathy to Work (Essential)
Learn how empathy can become part of how you investigate and understand problems.
Chapter 4: A New Way to Listen (Essential)
This is one of the most important chapters for this stage.
Learn to listen to someone’s experience without immediately jumping to solutions, advice or conclusions.
Chapter 5: Make Sense of What You Heard (Essential)
Find out how to process and deepen your understanding of what people tell you.
Chapter 6: Apply Empathy to What You Create (Essential)
Understand how patterns in people’s experiences can influence what you eventually create.
Chapter 1: Business Is Out of Balance (Read this chapter for context only)
It explains why relying only on numbers and analytical thinking can leave important parts of the customer experience invisible.
Skip Chapters 7–9 for now
They focus more heavily on applying empathy within workplaces and organizations.
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Your Step 3 Outcome
By the end of this step, you should have:
A deeper understanding of the experience behind each problem of the 3 problems generated in step 1
A clearer distinction between what you know and what you’re assuming
Initial insight into what people think, feel and do
A better understanding of their frustrations and desired outcomes
A list of questions you still need to investigate with real people
Notice what hasn’t happened yet:
You haven’t validated the problems yet. That’s intentional.
You’ve developed empathy, but empathy based on your own reflection is still not enough.
The next step takes you deeper.
Ready to Put Empathy into Practice?
Reading about empathy is not the same as practising it.
The EVUNN Customer Empathy Toolkit gives you a structured way to examine the problem from the customer’s perspective and separate evidence from assumptions.
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What Should I Learn Next?
You now have a better understanding of the customer’s experience.
But there’s another question:
What are they actually trying to accomplish?
A customer may describe a problem, but the problem itself isn’t always the real objective.
They may be trying to make progress toward something bigger.
Step 4: Jobs-to-Be-Done
You’ll move from: Understanding their experience to understanding the progress they’re actually trying to make.
